It's my birthday! Can you believe it? Ok, so most of you can't 'cause you didn't know and that's fine. ^_^ We are just internet buddies after all.
I've been at parties where people ask the same question over and over. "What have you learned in the past year?" This question has often puzzled me, so as I'm sitting here gazing at BEAUTIFUL grey skies and hoping it rains (my favorite weather - what, I'm from a desert) I thought I might try to think of ten things I have learned in my life that have stuck with me.
1. Any 'ship' (friendship, courtship, relationship, etc.) takes work. If you're not willing to do the work, don't get in the 'ship'.
2. Kids are worth it. 2 parts frustration, 1 part hope, but all joy. The greatest work ever done will be in the home.
3. Do not stress about things you can not affect right now. This may be hard, but it will get rid of a LOT of stress.
4. Also a stress reliever? PLAN. If you have a 30 minute trip somewhere and you have to be there at a specific time, plan on 10-15 minutes extra travel. But don't just plan on travel time, plan when you need to start getting ready. Plan as early as you need to just have things ready when the time comes. No one really gets in trouble for being early. Plan, plan, plan.
5. Fighting doesn't take down barriers, it builds them. Best thing - separate, cool down, talk.
6. Loving someone means finding out how they perceive love and giving that to them. And learning how they show love. If they don't like flowers, don't give them flowers 'cause you love them'. Learn their love language, and you will find they've been trying to show you they love you all along.
7. Dryers do steal socks. I don't know how this happens, but I've counted. 10 pairs went in, 19 socks came out. ?????
8. A difference in opinion does not make one right and one wrong automatically. Listen, learn, and know that you don't have to believe in what someone else does. Come to your own conclusions. Also, don't be too proud to admit if you're at fault.
9. We come with nothing, we leave with nothing. Therefore things don't matter. Cultivate good friendships, show love to strangers. The best example of how a person lives is not by what they have while they're alive, but by who mourns them when they're gone.
10. I am not afraid to proclaim that I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I am a Mormon. I am a Christian. I have a deep and personal testimony of my savior, Jesus Christ. If anyone has questions, I will strive to answer them. And it doesn't matter to me what you are. I will love you no matter who you do or don't believe in. It used to be hard for me to do either of those things, proclaim my testimony and love those who believed differently than I did. Not anymore.
So yeah, there you have it. Holidays are great times for family, reflecting on spiritual things, and being joyful. Birthdays are great for introspection, contemplation and, as Pinkie Pie says, "PARTY!"